Although parenting can seem very hard at first, with the right techniques you can do a very good job at it and you won’t feel like it is a burden at all. In fact, it can be very enjoyable for you and your partner, so what are some Different Types Of Child Discipline?.
There are a lot of parenting books out there that are 100s of pages long and with very little applicable information and methods in them, which is what makes them almost useless, especially if you’re not someone who is very keen on reading. But in order to find the best discipline method that works for you need to do some research, which is why our team of experts and editors have accumulated this list of the 8 best methods that have proven to work with most kids and are very healthy for everyone involved.
Enough talk and let’s jump right into them!
The Praising Discipline
This type of discipline is based on praising and encouraging your children when they do something that is good.
Instead of threatening to punish them when they misbehave, you can try to encourage them to do the right thing and try to make them see all the positive things that would happen when they do what they are supposed to.
This method does not mean bribing your kids (do your homework and I’ll buy you ice cream. But it should be more focused on showing them what positive outcomes their actions can have (if you do your homework, your teacher will think you’re very smart).
Oftentimes when your kid does something bad, there are consequences to it, consequences which they’ll see whether you lecture them about or not.
This is why it is important you don’t start lecturing your children right away about the consequences of their actions. Letting them figure out and experience the consequences of their actions on their own will help them develop a sense of responsibility and they will stop depending on you to tell them what’s wrong and what’s right.
We can use the same example as before, if your kid doesn’t do their homework and it is too late, you should then let them deal with the consequences which will be that their teacher will lecture them about it in front of their friends, something that they won’t like and will probably to refrain from the next time around.
Do NOT Hit Them
Some parents think it’s okay to spank a child as it doesn’t cause much harm. But oftentimes if you are angry enough you won’t notice that you’re hitting them a lot harder than a child can take, knowing that a child should go through no pain at all.
If you hit them, your kids will start fearing you, the moment that happens you should know that you’ve completely lost the parenting game. Your children from then on will start doing everything you tell them, and will do everything you dislike behind your back, which defeats the whole purpose.
Depending on how old your kids are, you might want to use different grounding methods.
You might keep them from playing with their favorite toys if they were breaking some of the house rules. You might also want to keep them from going to their room and make them sit in the living room with you, they will get bored and will reconsider breaking the rules again.
Coaching Their Emotions
Children are some of the most people who act upon their emotions, which is both good and bad. While it is good that they are aware of how they feel, it isn’t good that they act on them, instead of talking about them.
When a kid is frustrated or angry, they might start throwing things around or breaking stuff. This can be bad both long and short term. A better way to manage their emotions is if you teach them how they can verbalize them.
If you notice your kid starting to feel down, you should talk to them and be very explicit about what you think they are feeling. You can also help them show their emotions differently, you can ask them to draw how they feel for example.
Deprive Them of Privileges
Luckily for everyone, some privileges are not human rights, which means you can take them away from your kids if they do not follow the rules or when they refuse to do their chores or homework.
If your kid has a tablet or a laptop, take it away from them. You can also take away their toys or their TV time. The more your children value a privilege the more it will work in disciplining them once you take it away from them.
This technique shouldn’t be used all the time as it can be emotionally violent against your child.
Give Them Alternatives
Giving your kids alternatives shouldn’t be when they are asking for something. It should be in how they behave. You as a parent should present yourself as a role model to your kids and need to show them how they can better behave themselves.
You can show your kid how he or she can talk in a more polite manner instead of screaming and crying. Another example would be to teach them how they can clean their room and fix their bed instead of leaving it in chaos every morning.
This one will mostly work with kids who are between the ages of 1 and 3 years. When you notice them doing something that will harm them, or when they are crying, you can always tell them “no” or try to entertain them in order to stop their crying respectively.
These are all good methods but after a while, your kid won’t fall for them anymore. This is when distraction comes in handy. If the baby is crying you can distract him or her by showing them their favorite toy or just anything that is interesting. This has worked for me with way too many times that I can remember!
Parenting should be fun if you do it the right way. We hope this article has helped you get one step closer to being a perfect parent, and we wish you best of luck with your kids!